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Asked by Dabrila

Q: It feels wrong.

My boyfriend told me he would be out late entertaining clients for work. He came home at 3:30am drunk on a work night like it was no big deal. I had a suspicion that he had been lying to me. I was out of town for my baby shower and when I got back, I noticed female perfume in his truck and the seat was all different from how I normally had it set.
I went through his phone and found out that he met a stripper and had been taking her out on dates. I text her to find out more cause I know he would deny everything. She said they only met up twice, nothing sexual happened, but I still feel cheated.
He tells me he just went out with her because I'm not fun to go out with anymore because I'm pregnant and he misses how we used to be. We used to go out partying every weekend.
What do I do? I feel so insecure now.

This question was asked May. 8, 2012 8:02pm
Category: Relationships During Pregnancy

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Answered by Layne-Shane - May. 9, 2012 2:58am

wow,im so sorry for u. I could only say try it in his shoes to see if u can justify it. If u cant ull be like me and end up resenting him. On a darker note why did he have to pick a stripper? really? im so sorry hun, i say b$ this baby comes out u shud invest in a couples counseling,thats what id do cause honestly i would not be able to work it out on my own :( so sorry hun. i just read this to my so and i said y a stripper,he said cause they r fun,and then also stated be something i would do :(( as in me not him) started a argument now. good luck momma

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Answered by Falliiing - May. 9, 2012 2:35am

That is totally cheating in my book.
He would be out in the streets if that were my husband. Beaten bloody too.
Im not very nice when it comes to that kind of stuff.
Im so sorry for you.

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Answered by a member - May. 8, 2012 10:15pm

men just dont think like we do. they can be a selfish breed as oppose to us women we are nurturers. first off dont even begin to think its your fault. youre giving this man the most precious gift and he has the nerve to say youre no fun! how about he take 9 months out of his fun filled life to grow a human inside him, to deal with weight gain and morning sickness and backpain and the miracle of birth. dont be insecure at all, what youre doing is the most beautiful thing a woman can do and if hes got his head so far up that strippers butt to see that than you dont need him. sorry if any of this is offensive in any way i just dont appreciate men like that. you deserve support.

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Answered by jkim80 - May. 8, 2012 9:50pm

Hr might now have physically cheated, or so they say but he still lied & cheated emotionally at the very least. He strikes me as being selfish & childish in his behavior & like the others said it is not going to get better after baby is born. Some guys just aren't good partners and it sounds like you have one like I did before I divorced his ass. You deserve better & so does your baby. You deserve a loving & supportive man, not a selfish child who misbehaves and tries to shift the blame to you. It is not your fault that he is a idiot but we teach people how to treat us, so teach him that this behavior will NOT be tolerated, if not you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of heartache with your baby caught in the middle. Best wishes to you and your little one.

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Answered by tgreene - May. 8, 2012 9:41pm

Leave his Cheating behind you deserve way better then that pregnancy is very taxing on a womens body we're. Doing all the work carrying and delivering the baby and he has the nerve to say your no fun anymore

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Answered by nwelch - May. 8, 2012 9:37pm

aaawww sooo sorry to hear that. I would count that as cheating!!! Send him packing. You don't deserve to be treated like that. Once a cheater always a cheater, and that's just my opinion. Hows he going to be when the babies born? He will probably be jelous of the baby and that will be his exuse next time.You spend to much time with the baby and not him. I feel hes being very selfish. Good luck and don't put up with that.You deserve better. Take care.

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Answered by redhead628 - May. 8, 2012 8:39pm

Take it from someone who has already been in your shoes once before. Once that trust is gone it takes a lot to get it back, if it ever comes back. Most guys do not understand what we are going through, but this does NOT give them the freedom to go out with a stripper because you are 'no fun' anymore. It's a copout! If you need to talk or vent you are more than welcome to message me. I have been so paranoid with this pregnancy because my ex husband cheated on me when I was pregnant with our child.

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