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I turned 43 this month, am fit, healthy, happy and am 6 weeks, 1 day preggers after a long road of TTC. My older brother called on my birthday and the second sentence out of his mouth was something like "so when are you having kids? cause you'll be like in your 60s when they are in their 20s". I didn't tell him I had just found out I was pregnant! I then discovered, he of all "old" people at the ripe age of 50 has been secretly wishing for kids for the past year! Don't let others use their paintbrush on your beautiful canvas of dreams. Others will always have an opinion, but you will be the one having a beautiful, healthy, happy baby and they will be the one eating their heart out and wishing they had the courage to do what you're doing!

I am 40 and 33 weeks and like you, feel great and am having an amazing pregnancy. I haven't really had any comments about age, but then again - I did cut out all the negative "emotionally draining" type people out of my life as part of my TTC process! Worked a treat ;) Time to look after our little families now and not burden the opinions / problems of others :) Good luck xx

Thank you so much for your replies !!!!! It really does help !! It's shocking what someone else's opinion can make you feel , even when they really don't matter in your life !
Your support and stories are greatly appreciated !
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My mom's friend is pregnant now. She will be 51 when her (naturally conceived) twins are born. She is 32 weeks and they are both perfect! 39 is NOT old to be pregnant

Awww not nice to feel this way! Im 34 and had IVF after a huge age gap with my others, everyone kept saying are you mad? Your kids are half grown up why do you want the responsibility of another baby!? Did used to upset me but now most of them are jealous haha!

I do feel old in the sense that pregnancy was a lot easier when I was in my late teens and early 20's.....every bone just seems to ache with this one!!!

My mum was 39 when she had me (1 of 8 children) she said she wouldn't have stopped if her body had let her have more.

My sisters hubbies mum was 43 when she had her last kid with an age gap of 20 years with her others, she says it keeps her young!

So yeah sod everyone else and tell them its your life, your body so leave you the heck alone!!!

I'm 36 & pregnant with #2. I had my first at 33. No one really said anything with my first, but now that I'm past the 35 yr mark, I get a few more comments. People have asked me if I'm worried about birth defects. I tell them, of course, but everyone should be bc it can happen to anyone at any age. Even though my odds are higher, the odds are still overwhelmingly in my favor. They have also asked me if it took me a long time to get pregnant, as if that is any of their business. I tell them nope, I didn't suddenly dry up like a prune on my 35th birthday. Let people think what they want to think bc they are going to anyway. If you're happy that's all that matters!

Well, I'm 32 and feel like I'm getting too old to be doing this, but it does irritate me that there is so much opinion over it. Even though I'm butt-ass naked crazy right now and about to give birth to my third, if things go well, my hubby and I would like to try for one more in a few years, but how old will I be? So I'm struggling with that so in a way, I understand your plight, although have not been ridiculed myself on that. That being said, I do get a little flack because we are pregnant again and my other two have special needs. Too young, too old, too soon after the last, blah blah blah. No body will ever be happy with anything. If they can talk shit they will. And I guess the biggest hype about it all is, not that you aren't in good shape, but the shape of your eggs. As far as I'm concerned, I was 24 when I had my first child (born with Downs) so as long as you go into it understanding your risks and willing to man up to them, then so the fuck what! GL to ya!