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I feel the same way... guys will be guys my husband watches it when I'm not feeling well and don't feel like dong the deed but he doesn't keep it from me if I ask him about it he tells me the truth and ultimately I'd rather him go watch porn and maybe pleasure himself rather than going out and finding another woman to pleasure him... just my thoughts but I feel that its normal

My partner watches porn and sometimes I urge him to watch it while I'm pleasuring him, I a asked him what he thought of porn and his reply should help a lot of us insecure women...
" porn is a means to an end,there's no fantasy involved,no feelings,it's just an act to relieve when needs must"
Makes me feel better hope it helps you x

Just an add on: sorry if it's TMI. I actually walked in on DH by accident last night. We'd done our business no more than 20 mins prior. I went out to the lounge to have a drink and relax with a bit of TV and he stayed in the room. I walked in not to see the act but a summary of what he had been doing. I just said "i'll leave you to it" and walked out after grabbing my jumper. He actually came out really ashamed and said he felt like a kind of cheating.. Not because of what he was doing, but because of "being caught". It was interesting to see his side of it when I tried to explain to him I honestly didn't care and I meant what I said by leaving him to it. Perhaps my tone sounded disappointed. Hey I was a little because we'd just done the deed... but in my mind, boys will be boys, better this way than another lady in real life! (that's my opinion).
I urge you to ask him how he feels watching it. Like mine was, quite ashamed even though I said I didn't mind.

I think it is most important to be open in a relationship and at least know where each other stand on the topic. Some women hate their partners watching, some don't, some even watch with - whatever takes your fancy. A relationship needs compromise if you don't like it going on. It's somewhat natural for a man to be curious about different things or watching (some men do not get turned on at all)... but I think the bottom line is I agree with lizzymommy... I would rather my partner watch porn, even if it disgusted me (I personally don't care for my own reasons) than go looking to get his end away somewhere else... Some ladies still think it's cheating - and that's where great communication is important. He may hide it because he is embarrassed about it... like a guilty pleasure... It's a hard subject - no pun intended. All I can say is be as open with each other as you can about how it impacts on you, AND him and work out what may need to happen

My boyfriend and I have been in the same boat. I've told him that I feel like I'm not good enough for him when he looks it up. Then he hid it from me. But since August we haven't had a problem *knock on wood*, but I have told him that if he wants to watch porn, at least watch it with me. And it really has helped our sex life a lot too. You can get so many ideas from watch them. Good luck and just talk to him again about it.

Id rather my fiancee watch porn then go out and cheat on me..so if he wants to watch oh well. most men are afraid of hurting the baby and my fiancee is one of those first time dads so if porn is what he has to watch then ok.. have a good day

yeah i agree with you maggie the same thing happened to me. i hate the fact that he does it even though i really dont like it i find it very degrading for women. So i think ill just try to amp up the intimacy

i had the same problem when i discovered my boyfriend watching porn, i was hurt and upset and didnt feel good enough, i told him how i felt and he promised not to watch it again. But i found it again and was more hurt as he had now lied about it. I just think men cannot help it, they all do it so i just stopped looking on his computer so i wouldnt get upset.

Wow, I'm shocked by the fact that most of you think it's okay if your husbands watch porn. I know my husband masturbates and have absolutely no problem with it but we've decided together that porn has no place in our home. We're Christians and we have the utmost respect for our bodies and each others'. It really is okay to have a problem with porn and don't let others tell you otherwise. We have a very healthy sex life without porn and we don't need it to spice things up. We have imaginations for that!!
Talk to your boyfriend about this again and really try to explain exactly why you dont want him to watch porn. If he loves you and respects you and understand why you feel the way you do, maybe he'll stop!! Best of luck to you!!

Just because he watches porn doesn't mean you're not good enough for him. He is just watching it to jerk off, I assure you he is not comparing you to porn stars as that is totally unrealistic. It's just something to fantasize to. The majority of men watch porn. I know my hubby does and guess what..so do I. We watch it together sometimes. In my opinion it is not a big deal at all and by no means do I watch porn because I think my hubby isn't enough or vice versa. As far as I'm concerned the only reason someone would be upset about their significant other watching porn is because of their own insecurities. He's not comparing you to porn stars, YOU are comparing yourself to them. It's just something to get off to.